Concerned Parent

**Kate** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Sun Nov 02, 2008 3:48 am

Negative Overload wrote:

On a much lighter note...
Anyone in touch with Vex? She doing good? I miss her.

She's doing fine, as far as I know. I miss her though, too.

**Kate** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Sun Nov 02, 2008 3:36 pm

Miskatonic wrote:

Negative Overload wrote:

Anyone in touch with Vex? She doing good? I miss her.

She ain't talking to me, that's for sure.

So many friendships have fallen apart this year. It's unbelievable. Sad

I hope you guys can fix it somehow. I don't know what happened and I think I don't even want to know, but I hope you guys will be all right eventually. Sad

**Miskatonic** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Sun Nov 02, 2008 3:58 pm

Kate wrote:

Miskatonic wrote:

Negative Overload wrote:

Anyone in touch with Vex? She doing good? I miss her.

She ain't talking to me, that's for sure.

So many friendships have fallen apart this year. It's unbelievable. Sad

I hope you guys can fix it somehow. I don't know what happened and I think I don't even want to know, but I hope you guys will be all right eventually. Sad

Well, given she's defriended me on LJ and Facebook, refuses to come to my house and expects my boyfriend to act as an intermediary between us, ain't happening any time soon.

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**futureshock** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Sun Nov 02, 2008 5:03 pm

What happened?

**Vexing** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Sun Nov 02, 2008 6:22 pm

Miskatonic wrote:

and expects my boyfriend to act as an intermediary between us

That's a lie and you know it.
This is part of the reason why we are no longer friends.

**mrslieb** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Mon Nov 03, 2008 9:12 am

That is so sad. Reread the thread. There are so many evil and horrible people in the world. You two are two of the good ones! I sincerely hope you can let go of whatever this is and work it out.

**Miskatonic** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Mon Nov 03, 2008 6:49 pm

Vexing wrote:

Miskatonic wrote:

and expects my boyfriend to act as an intermediary between us

That's a lie and you know it.
This is part of the reason why we are no longer friends.

It's a lie you've only communicated with him, and furthermore told him what you expect me to do to "resolve" this? Whatever you say.

_________________
It's a matter of prescience; no, not the science fiction kind.
It's all about ignorance, and greed, and miracles for the blind.
The media parading disjointed politics
Founded on petrochemical plunder, and we're its hostages.

**Vexing** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Mon Nov 03, 2008 7:25 pm

Miskatonic wrote:

Vexing wrote:

Miskatonic wrote:

and expects my boyfriend to act as an intermediary between us

That's a lie and you know it.
This is part of the reason why we are no longer friends.

It's a lie you've only communicated with him, and furthermore told him what you expect me to do to "resolve" this? Whatever you say.

The lie is that "I expect him to act as an intermediary between us."
I've done no such thing.
He instigated the line of questioning and I simply responded to his questions.
I initiated nothing.
He was concerned about us fighting and wanted to assist in a resolution.
I, in no way, ever expected - nor wanted - him to act as an intermediary.

Basically what you are insisting is that anything I say to my friend of 11 years about you is somehow using him as 'an intermediary'.
That is an utter fabrication and a real slap in the face that you would think I would treat my friend like that.

What did I actually expect?
I expected you would pick up the phone book and phone, ring me like a civilised human being and talk this over.
Not make wild accusations about my behaviour.

This is your problem Stephanie; you assume based on very little evidence.
Just like you assumed that I 'undeleted' my rant at DM.
But when presented with the actual facts, rather than believe them (or heaven forbid, acknowledge your mistake) you push on the argument for the sake of your pride.

This is twice now that you've accused me of doing things I have not done - and insulted me by accusing me of using my friend.
When you have the guts to acknowledge that, I'll be quite happy to let this all go.

P.S. what a wonderful ploy; now I'll never be able to talk to Jarrod again; for fear of mentioning you and then being accused of God knows what.

**Miskatonic** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Mon Nov 03, 2008 8:44 pm

Well, Caitlin, phones work two ways.

Further, you've been in my house since the "argument" and said nothing to me.

So given that my partner is the only person with whom you've discussed your issues, I don't think it's an unfair assumption that you expected him to be intermediary, since you, who can also use a phonebook, who knows my LJ, who has my email, who had me friended on Facebook, did not choose to use any of those avenues to communicate with me.

Please do not try to coerce me or my boyfriend into action by making any further passive-aggressive insinuations.

This has been the point all along: only you can control your actions. You chose to distance yourself. Only you can choose to try to fix this.

_________________
It's a matter of prescience; no, not the science fiction kind.
It's all about ignorance, and greed, and miracles for the blind.
The media parading disjointed politics
Founded on petrochemical plunder, and we're its hostages.

**Vexing** · Subject: Re: Concerned Parent Mon Nov 03, 2008 10:19 pm

Miskatonic wrote:

Well, Caitlin, phones work two ways.

Further, you've been in my house since the "argument" and said nothing to me.

I was waiting for an apology.
Which never came.

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So given that my partner is the only person with whom you've discussed your issues,

Thank you once again for insulting me to the core.
Yes, of course, Jarrod is my only friend in the world (because I'm such a loser) and my boyfriend doesn't exist. I just made it up that I'm going out with Ankh.

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I don't think it's an unfair assumption that you expected him to be intermediary,

What, like you assumed I had a magic 'undelete' button for php forums?
You owe me an apology. Several now.

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since you, who can also use a phonebook, who knows my LJ, who has my email, who had me friended on Facebook, did not choose to use any of those avenues to communicate with me.

Steph; why should I be the one to bow and scrape when it is you who cause the whole situation?
It is on your head to resolve this - I didn't wrong you in any way. This is YOUR mess to sort out.
Stop dodging responsibility and grow up.

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Please do not try to coerce me or my boyfriend into action by making any further passive-aggressive insinuations.

You have made far more insinuations than me.

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This has been the point all along: only you can control your actions. You chose to distance yourself. Only you can choose to try to fix this.

I didn't choose for you to lie about me, more than once.
My actions are justified.
Your are not.

Face it Stephanie, you chose to stick your nose into my business, where it did not belong, and make baseless accusations that were proven wrong.
You owe me at least one apology.
There is nothing for me to 'fix' since I can't do anything that will change the wiring in your brain that makes you a hysterical bitch that jumps to conclusions.
This is up to you to solve.

All you are doing is dancing around the fact that you need to own up to your mistakes.
It's obvious to...well, freaking everyone.

I have a problem with your behaviour and have chosen not to associate myself with you until you fix that behaviour.
That is a sensible and rational choice, since it is idiotic to put myself in a position to be further subjected to your childishness for no reason.
Only you can choose to fix this.

Your solution is "Cate needs to fucking suck it up and pretend nothing ever happened."
That is not a solution.